There are many young people who are affected by M.E. but how it affects your education will depend on your symptoms. You might find you need to rest during break and lunchtime, or you might not be able to go to all your lessons. You may need to do some learning at home instead of going to school, or you might be too unwell to go to school at all for a while.
It’s important to remember that your experience of M.E. may be different to someone else’s, and that your symptoms can change over time. Something that you were able to do last week could be more difficult this week. It is important not to do too much if you find that you are struggling. It can be tempting to try and achieve the same things as before and as your friends, but this can make you feel worse and even more exhausted.
Some things that children and young people have told us they have found difficult about school are the following;
A particular challenge, reported by many young people, is the physical act of moving around school buildings and especially going up and down stairs. You may have taken these activities for granted in the past, so it can be really frustrating when you find it difficult because of the noise, distance and number of other young people to contend with.
You may find that some subjects are more tiring than others as they are more physically demanding, for example PE and drama, or those you normally struggle with harder to focus on. Whilst it’s good to continue with lessons that you enjoy, you should remember that it’s important to balance this with rest and relaxation.
If you’re able to attend some of your lessons in school, then they should make adjustments to help make things easier for you. With the support of your parent or carer, you should contact your school so you can discuss how your teachers, support staff and the school nurse can best support you.
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Some things that your school or college might be able to provide include:
If you have a medical need, in your case M.E., which is preventing you going to school or accessing some of your lessons, then your school should meet with you to discuss drawing up an Individual Healthcare Plan. We have a free downloadable factsheet on Individual Healthcare Plans that you and your parents may find helpful.
If you have missed more than 15 days from school, your school can ask the Local Authority to arrange teaching at home. These 15 days do not have to be consecutive, but do have to be related to the same medical condition. Local Authorities often ask schools to complete the referral to tuition at home. This is because schools must show how they have attempted to support you in continuing going to school. Support from the Local Authority will vary but often will provide you with an education of five hours within the home environment. The actual amount allocated can be agreed depending on what activity level you can cope with, for some this may begin with just five-minute sessions.
As a young person with M.E. it can feel very lonely to be at home whilst other people are at school. Try and keep in contact with your friends even if you are finding it difficult to leave the house. You might find ways such as replying or sending a text or an email, using social media, or more directly such as Skype or by phone.
We know that if you have been away from school for some time you may be nervous about returning. This is really normal, and other young people experience this when they have been off school. It can also be difficult to explain to your friends, and some young people may find it difficult to understand what M.E. is and how it affects you. It might help to share Action for M.E.’s Children and Young People’s Services leaflet with them.
You might ask for extra support from a parent or carer to talk to your friends’ parents about your condition. This may mean that they are able to answer questions that your friends may have. If anyone at school is unkind to you because of your illness, don’t be afraid to let your parent, carer or teacher know. You’re probably not the only person they’re being unpleasant to, and they may need help understanding what M.E. is and how it affects you. Sadly we do hear from young people where teachers are unsupportive, and even unkind. This is wrong and if it happens to you please tell a trusted adult or other teacher you get on well with.
Read more about how to talk to your friends about M.E.
The answer to this question depends on your level of ability and what the hobby is. Physically demanding hobbies such as playing football or netball may become difficult for you. It is tempting to try to push yourself to carry on with them, but this could make you feel worse. Other hobbies which require concentration may also be difficult; so, things such as reading or playing computer games may still be draining, affect your energy levels and your ability to do them as well as before you became ill.
To help your body get better, you might have to stop doing some of your favourite hobbies for a while or do them less often. You could try to enjoy your hobbies in a less energy intensive way – if you enjoy football but are too unwell to play, perhaps you could watch it on TV or join an online group. If you feel that you’re able to start doing some of your favourite activities again, try and set small, achievable goals to begin with.
Read more about managing energy and rest.
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